Okay let’s assume you are very self aware and you are noticing behaviors that you would like to change or shift when interacting with others. Congrats! The next step is to be able to transform those behaviors into new strategies that will for you and for those around you.

In my book “The Control Freak Revolution- Make Your Most Maddening Behaviors Work for Your Company and To Your Advantage” I give in depth solutions on how to shift our actions in order to get new and enhanced results. I have been doing publicity for the book and I am commonly asked “how do we change these behaviors?”

It’s a great question and in Chapter nine I provide some help with this. In a very brief synopis here are 7 ways to make your maddening behaviors work for you:

Turn the negative into a positive for each maddening behavior transform it into new behaviors for example:

#1 Turn the negative of impatience into the positive of communicated urgency

#2 Turn the negative of being overbearing into the positive of assertive coaching

#3 Turn the negative of being over controlling into the positive of being just right controlling

#4 Turn the negative of being condescending into the positive of respecting others opinions

#5 Turn the negative of non trust into the positive of letting go slowly with trust

#6 Turn the negative of perfectionism into the positive of healthy achievement

#7 Turn the negative of being push and forceful into the positive of being flexible and adaptable

Of course none of these proposed shifts are easy to make and if you are really struggling I recommend getting support in the form of coaching in order to make a commitment to positive change and growth.

Or read the book

No one wants to be called a control freak- if feels negative and judging. However we have viewed control freaks in an ‘all or nothing’ way in my opinion.

In the February issue of Best Life Magazine an article on the mind body connection states that people who suffer chronic back pain can obtain relief by learning to ‘control’ their thoughts about pain itself.

In my new book, “The Control Freak Revolution” my point is that we want to be a positive control freak that controls our minds with positive thoughts and we want to use positive behaviors to get better results with others.

Why is it a ‘revolution’? Because it is time that negative control freaks wake up and recognize the difference between being an overbearing and unbearably controlling person in a negative way and transform their controlling into a positive and inspiring way of being and interacting with others.

I have a quiz in my book in Chapter One which is free on my site www.cherylcran.com and I also found another quiz here http://www.blogthings.com/areyouacontrolfreakquiz/

Find out what level of a control freak you might be and work at becoming the most positive control freak possible.